A Word from A
1999, by Cheryl Demas
- You couldn't miss the
headlines this past week, our local news led with the story:
"Working moms, lose your guilt. Children are not harmed
- Funny, but I
don't think this "good news" is going to send a huge
rush of moms into the workplace.
- I don't know
about other families, or thousands of studied children. I only
know about my own children and my own family. My kids are happy
at home, I'm happy, and my husband's happy.
- The problem
I see with all of these studies and the ensuing debates, is the
assumption that parenting is a one way street -- with children
making huge demands on their parents-- time, energy and financial
resources. Simply draining the parents and giving little in return.
Do you get the feeling that we're being told that as long as
we have the proof that our kids aren't harmed by daycare, there
won't be a woman in her right mind who will choose, actually
prefer, to stay at home and take care of her children?
- I don't know
about you, but that hasn't been my experience. Being home with
my kids isn't a sacrifice for me, it is a joy. Sure, I still
have other interests, things I like to do that don't include
the kids. That's one of the reasons why I have a home business.
But nothing is more important to me than being here for my kids.
I wouldn't trade these days for anything, Money, status, titles,
-- none of it means as much to me as my main title, "Mom."
And judging by the number of visitors to WAHM.com and the mail
I receive, there a lot of other moms who agree with me.
- This may not
be your experience, I'm not trying to tell anyone what they should
do, or presume to know what will make anyone else happy. I just
know what makes me happy, and that's being home with my kids.
- But I guess,
"Moms Love Being Home With Their Kids!" just doesn't
make for a very exciting headline...